Self-love is an essential aspect of personal growth and well-being. It is the foundation of a healthy, fulfilling life. However, many people struggle with the concept of self-love and misunderstand what it truly means. As an expert in self-love, I want to shed light on the topic, debunk some misconceptions.
The most important thing people should know about self-love is that it is not selfish or narcissistic.
Self-love is about accepting and valuing yourself, taking care of your needs, and treating yourself with kindness and compassion. It is not about putting yourself above others or disregarding their feelings. In fact, when you love yourself, you are better equipped to love others unconditionally and build healthier relationships.
The most misleading thing about self-love is that it is a destination to be reached. Many people believe that once they achieve a certain goal, acquire a specific possession or reach a particular milestone, they will finally love themselves. However, self-love is a journey, not a destination. It is a continuous process of self-discovery, growth, and acceptance. You don't have to be perfect to love yourself; you just have to be willing to work on yourself and accept who you are. It's about learning to love yourself WITHOUT conditions.
Conditions keep us from living our highest potential because the fear of not getting it right makes us love ourselves, and others WITH conditions.
If there is a condition. It is not possible to achieve your highest potential because the universe can only meet you where you are willing to meet yourself.
If you justify any thought with BUT first, that's a condition.
I hate my job, but first I need another.
I am not happy in this relationship BUT first, I need to find another.
But first I need to look this way before I can attract love.
But first I need to workout
But first I need to take care of them.
But first I need to make this much money.
But first he/she needs to
But first I need to ... ( insert your fav BUT first )
These are all conditions you are placing on yourself.
So you'll never attract your highest love from this place. Nor will you attract your dream job, body, or health. It's impossible.
Try to release yourself from any unhealthy attachments and follow the path of unconditional love for yourself and others. Try on self-compassion. Many people are hard on themselves and have an inner critic that is harsh and unforgiving. They beat themselves up over mistakes, dwell on their flaws, and compare themselves to others. This negative self-talk can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. To counteract that, it's crucial to practice self-compassion.
Here are some steps to start focusing on increasing self-love:
Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Eat healthy, exercise regularly, get enough sleep, and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
Challenge your negative self-talk: Be aware of your inner critic and challenge it. Ask yourself if your thoughts are based on reality or just your perception. Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
Cultivate self-acceptance: Accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all. Acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses and be kind to yourself.
Set boundaries: Learn to say no to things that don't serve you or that you don't want to do. Respect your own needs and prioritize your well-being.
Practice gratitude: Focus on what you have instead of what you lack. Gratitude can help shift your perspective and increase positive emotions.
Remember, it's a journey, not a destination. Try removing the conditions that you place upon yourself, or at least start to know where you use BUT FIRST.
Sending you all my love, and in case noone told you today, you're beautiful, worthy and enough just as you are. Trust me, the minute you can accept this as truth is the second the energy within you shifts and life becomes a whole lot more enJOYable.
Amanda - Chief Worthiness Officer