There are many things that we can't control in life, but the one thing we can control is our own self-esteem.
Self-esteem is a valuable tool, yet too many of us are lacking in it. We struggle to approve of ourselves, and see ourselves as worthy of happiness and even lack confidence in our own talents and abilities.
If you're feeling this way, you're not alone. We live in a society where we constantly compare ourselves to others, and it's easy to feel that there's always someone who has a more successful career, happier marriage or better social life than you do—and that we have no chance of ever catching up.
But what if I told you that self-esteem isn't about comparing yourself to others? It's about accepting who you are right now—and believing that what makes you unique is enough.
You already are worthy of so much.
You are worthy of love and respect.
You are worthy of being happy.
You are worthy of being healthy.
You are worthy of being successful.
You are worthy of massive abundance.
Having high self-worth meaning having clear boundaries.
If you don't have a clear set of boundaries, you need some.
It's important to set boundaries for yourself so that you can protect your time and energy, not to mention have the strength to say no when something doesn't feel aligned. It's also a way of protecting yourself from those who would take advantage of the fact that you are generous and giving. There are many ways to do this:
Decide in advance how much time you want to spend with certain people in a week or month, and stick with it! You will not only build self-worth, but self-trust. ( e.g."Thank you for the invite to stay for dinner, but I only have time for a coffee.")
No is a complete sentence. Practice using it without apologizing Sorry means you did something wrong. (e.g.,"Thank you but no, I cannot attend your dinner party this weekend, please keep me in mind for the next one.")
Evaluate your thoughts.
It is important to be mindful of the quality of your thoughts. Once you start observing them you might notice how toxic and negative they really are. You might even catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm so lazy."
It's important to remember that these thoughts come from the past. Just because you think a thought doesn't mean it's true, unless of course you believe them. Even if these thoughts are happening in your mind, they affect how you see yourself.
Remember that whatever follows I AM is like a genie in the bottle to the universe. Prophesize what you want to attract.
- I am abundance
- I am worthy
- I am successful
- I am kind
- I am worthy
- I am motivated
- I am healthy
Appreciate your uniqueness.
You are unique. There is NO ONE else like you on the planet. You have your own style, whether it's in what you wear or the way you talk to people. How you help people. You are a good person and make others happy with your presence. You're a good friend, partner, parent, child, employee and sibling! These things make you valuable as a person.
Treat yourself like the goddess you are. Nourish yourself physically. Eat well, get enough sleep and sunlight, drink plenty of water, practicing self-care (like reading, journaling or taking bubble baths) and connecting with nature.
In order to be worthy of others' time and attention (and money), you must first be worthy of your own time and attention.
Don't compare yourself to others.
- Don't compare yourself to other people.
- Don't compare yourself to others' accomplishments.
- Don't compare yourself to others' happiness.
- Don't compare yourself to others' successes, or lack thereof.
This is the quickest way to errode self-worth. The only time we can ever feel "not enough" in our own life is when we are comparing ourselves to another.
You are already worth it. We all are, inherently. The sooner we learn to accept ourselves as we are, the easier it will be for us to live lives that fulfill our needs and desires.
Acceptance is not about embracing mediocrity or settling for less than what we deserve in life; rather, it's about honoring and valuing ourselves enough that we can be self-aware enough to know what makes us happy, who brings out the best in us, and how much work we need to put into making those things happen.
Acceptance means recognizing your flaws without shame; accepting them as part of who you are right now without feeling like they're something wrong with "you" as opposed to "them." What you don't own, owns you. So own your "flaws" your imperfects and rock them!
By reframing your thinking, establishing boundaries, and appreciating our uniqueness, we become more aware of our value as individuals and remember that we are ALL worthy.
Sending you so much love on your self worth journey,
Amanda - Chief Worthiness Officer