Your relationship with self worth
Our relationship with our self-worth is something we all have to navigate. And because of that, we all question it from time to time. But the question isn’t the problem—it’s how we learned to answer it, or validate it.
When we seek it externally—we struggle. We self abandon. We lose ourselves in the pursuit of the chase. But what are we really chasing? Love? Money? Success… or worth?
If you've ever struggled with self-worth, here are a few tips for getting back on track:
How can you have a good relationship with self worth?
So how do you have a good relationship with self worth? First off, you need to know that self-worth is not about the money in your bank account, the size of your waist or how much you weigh. It’s not about how much you can do, how many followers you have or if you drive a BMW or a Toyota.
Self worth is knowing who you are and what makes you unique. It’s feeling confident enough in who you are to share who you are unapologetically without being afraid that others won’t like or accept you. Because you accept you. Self worth means having faith in yourself so much so that even when things go wrong, when people let you down and when life doesn't go as planned (and let's be honest - this happens ), self-worth enables us to pick ourselves up again rather than letting our failures define us forevermore.
Self worth is an ever-changing number.
When we talk about self-worth, it’s easy to think of the term as a fixed number that is static and unchanging. It's either high or low. But the truth is that our sense of self-worth — no matter what the number — is ever-changing. Your view of yourself as belonging in this world will change over time, along with every other aspect of your life.
Your worth isn’t a label that you put on yourself or others, either; it doesn't have to be justified by any specific actions or accomplishments; and it certainly isn't subject to ranking systems, comparisons or competitions with other people. Self-worth isn't something that someone else can give you or take away from you; rather, it's something each person must own for him/herself and it's something YOU decide.
Why is self worth important to your well-being and why is it important to your relationships?
In a society where we are constantly told that "you can be anything you want to be", self-worth is more important than ever.
In order to build a strong relationship with yourself and others, you need to first have an intimate relationship with yourself. You need to know what makes you tick, what your strengths and weaknesses are, what makes you happy or sad. I like to say, tell on yourself. If you have perceived flaws or weaknesses, own them, because what we don't own, owns us.
If we don't value our own worthiness then how can we expect others too? We can't, and we might even find ourselves looking for love in all the wrong places because we don't feel worthy of it - instead of creating more positive relationships with others in our lives!
Why does self worth matter?
Self-worth is a measure of how much you value yourself, your life, your relationships and the potential that you have inside.
It's really important to know and understand where your self-worth comes from because this will help you determine how much value you give to different areas of your life.
You are the only person who has control over how much you value yourself.
When you are the only person who knows what you're worth, your self-worth is in your hands. You can decide how much you value yourself and how much you value your relationships. When it comes to understanding your own worth, there are no shortcuts or tricks—you simply have to look at yourself honestly and determine what's truly important to you and OWN it!
This process might be easy for some people and difficult for others, but if there's one thing that all humans share, it's our capacity for self-reflection. No matter who we are or what we've done in our lives (good or bad), each of us has the ability to see ourselves as we really are: imperfect beings on a journey towards something greater than ourselves.
Remember: Self-worth is an ever-changing. Some days we have high amounts, and others low. You will have days where your self worth is high and you feel confident in yourself, but you will also have days where it is low and you feel discouraged. This is part of the ebbs and flows of life. The important thing to remember about self-worth is that it can change based on the day, but it does not define who you are as a person. Your well-being has a direct correlation with how much value you place on yourself so it's crucial to find ways FEEL good about yourself.
Learn to self soothe. Learn to connect with yourself. Learn to see yourself as a perfectly imperfect human being who is trying their best, and let that be enough. You are enough and were born worthy, if you would like a little reminder to wear about your neck, check out Worthy Wands.
Sending you all my love,
Amanda - Chief Worthiness Officer Worthy Wands