Do you feel like you don't measure up? Do you often question your worth and value as a person?
You're not alone. Many people struggle with feelings of unworthiness, often due to experiences from childhood or traumatic events.
However, it's important to know that you are valuable and deserving of love and respect as you are. Today.
Knowing your worth is essential to living a fulfilling life. It's freedom actually because when you know and understand your worth, you understand that you are deserving of love, respect, and success. Period. Not when you achieve this, or do that. You just are. You were born worthy of love and everything else that you might desire. But somewhere along the way, you were made to believe by someone who meant well, that you had to perform in order to be worthy. Someone else caused you to have this belief. You weren't born with it.
Where is the evidence that supports the thought that you are unworthy?
There isn't any because it's not true. What we need to get into the habit of doing is questioning our thoughts. Is this a useful way to think? Does it cause me to me more motivated, or less? Does it cause me to expand or contract? Does it cause me to feel happy or sad?
Anything that causes you to feel sad, heavy, fearful, angry, jealous is not useful, and is not the truth. The truth feels light, expansive. Possible.
When you can realize that you were born worthy and there is no prerequisites to worthiness you'll be able to set healthy boundaries. You'll feel when something is a no and you'll learn when to walk away from situations that aren't serving you.
So how to start the healing process of the unworthiness wound:
- Practice self-compassion:
It's important to be kind to yourself. Practice self-compassion by speaking to yourself in a kind and gentle manner. When you make a mistake or have a negative thought, remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes and that you're doing the best you can.
- Challenge negative self-talk:
Negative self-talk can be a major obstacle to feeling worthy and valuable. When you hear negative thoughts about yourself, challenge them. Ask yourself if they're true, and if there's evidence to support them. Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations, such as "I am worthy of love and respect." The brain believes what you repeat, that's how it learns, so change up the soundtrack.
- Identify and process past traumas:
Many people who struggle with feelings of unworthiness have experienced traumatic events in their past. It's important to identify and process these traumas in order to heal. Consider seeing a therapist or counselor who can help you work through these issues. You don't need to dig up the past, but awareness of where the seed of unworthiness was planted and by whom will aid in the process.
- Focus on your strengths:
Everyone has strengths and talents. Focus on yours and celebrate them. Make a list of your strengths and accomplishments, and refer to it when you're feeling down.
- Practice gratitude:
Gratitude can help shift your focus from what's wrong to what's right in your life. Take time each day to reflect on what you're grateful for. This can be as simple as being thankful for a good cup of coffee or a warm hug from a loved one. Whatever we focus on expands. So we want to magnify the good.
- Surround yourself with positive influences:
Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Spend time with friends and family who encourage you and believe in your abilities. Limit time with people who bring you down or make you question your worth and value.
Your creator gave you worth at birth, and nothing, and no one can disqualify you from that.
All my love,
Chief Worthiness Officer - Worthy Wands