Do you often find yourself comparing your achievements, looks, or lifestyle with others and feeling inadequate or inferior? If so, you are not alone. Many of us fall prey to the trap of social comparison, a phenomenon where we evaluate our worth based on how we measure up to others around us. However, constantly comparing yourself to others can be detrimental to your self-esteem, confidence, and overall well-being. Let's explore how you can break free from the comparison trap and cultivate a healthy sense of self-worth.
- Identify Your Triggers:
The first step towards overcoming social comparison is to identify your triggers. What situations or people tend to make you feel inferior or inadequate? Is it scrolling through social media and seeing everyone's curated lives? Or is it attending social gatherings where everyone seems to be doing better than you? Once you have identified your triggers, you can take steps to avoid or minimize them. For example, if social media is a trigger, you can limit your time on these platforms or unfollow accounts that make you feel bad about yourself. Tip: Do an unfollow Friday, and only follow accounts that make you FEEL GOOD! About yourself, about life, about your career. Feel good in general. The more you engage with accounts that you don't like, the more energy you expand, and yup! you guess it, the more the algorhyme will flood your feed because it thinks you want to see MORE! If it makes you feel LESS, unfollow. The vibe is ALWAYS MORE, NEVER LESS.
- Practice Gratitude:
Gratitude is a powerful tool that can help you shift your focus from what you lack to what you have. When you are grateful for what you have, you are less likely to compare yourself to others who have more. Start a gratitude journal and write down three things you are thankful for each day. These can be simple things like a warm bed, a good meal, or a loving pet. By focusing on the good in your life, you will feel more content and less envious of others. I know, it seems cheesy, but here's the truth - EVERYTHING is energy - and gratitude is one of the highest vibrations that there is so stack that sh%t!
- Focus on Your Strengths:
Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own strengths and accomplishments. Whatever we focus on expands, so make a list of your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Maybe you aced something, learned a new skill, or completed a project at work. Celebrate these accomplishments and use them as a reminder of your worth. Celebration is so underrated and often is only reserved for holidays, train your brain to CELEBRATE the little things as well as the big ones! In my world, we celebrate E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G! Go back and pretend that you're a kid and you're doing something for the first time - remember how your parents cheered? OMG she's walking! OMG he just drank from a straw for the first time. YESSSS in the toilet! YOU ARE SOOO SMART! lol, our brains LOVE the attention, so give it to yourself, on REPEAT! Remember that everyone has their own unique strengths and talents, and it's not fair to compare yourself to someone who has a different set of skills and experiences.
- Practice Self-Compassion:
Self-compassion is the practice of treating yourself with kindness and understanding, just like you would treat a friend. When you make a mistake or experience a setback, be gentle with yourself instead of beating yourself up. Recognize that everyone makes mistakes and that failure is a part of the learning process. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend going through a similar situation. Besides, mistakes mean that you're learning, so really it's just about you getting smarter! OH YA! Always more! Never less!
- Surround Yourself with Positive Influences:
The people you surround yourself with can have a significant impact on your self-esteem and confidence. Surround yourself with positive influences who support and encourage you, rather than those who make you feel inferior or insecure. Seek out friends, family members, or mentors who lift you up and make you feel good about yourself. These positive influences can help you see your worth and value, even when you are struggling to see it yourself. On social media go look for these people, they're called expanders! Our minds need to see it to believe it.
Alright lovelies, there's 5 ways to ditch the comparonistis and up your self-worth.
I know that comparing yourself to others can be a tough habit to break, but with practice and patience, it is possible. By identifying your triggers, practicing gratitude, focusing on your strengths, practicing self-compassion, and surrounding yourself with positive influences, you can improve your self-worth and break free from the comparison trap. Remember that your worth is not determined by how you measure up to others, but by your unique qualities, experiences, and contributions to the world. Your creator gave you worth at birth, OWN IT! Embrace your individuality and celebrate all that makes you who you are.
All my love,
Amanda - Chief Worthiness Officer xo