Reclaiming Your Birthright

Have you ever felt like the world tells you to shrink yourself, to prioritize everyone else's needs before your own? Maybe not overly but subtly? Societal messages often push us to disconnect from ourselves, sacrificing our wholeness in the pursuit of safety, connection, and belonging. But this relentless quest for external validation comes at a staggering cost: the outsourcing of our self-worth.

But what if there was another way? What if we could rewrite the template, reclaim our birthright of self-love, and live lives anchored in unshakeable worth?

This is my story, and it's an invitation to join this movement.

The Broken Template's Crushing Weight

For years, I embodied the broken template. Like many of us, I struggled with a deep sense of inadequacy. I became a champion people-pleaser, a relentless perfectionist, prioritizing everyone else's needs before my own. This relentless pursuit of external approval led me down a dark path – burnout, loss, and losing myself entirely. Truth be told from the "outside" I looked like I was winning at the game we call life. 5 carat diamond ring, the big house, the BMW, multiple successful businesses. I had a family, a dog. Everything on the outside appeared "perfect".

By design. I designed it to look that way.

Vulnerability? Never Heard of Her.

I didn't know the first thing about vulnerability. Asking for my needs to be met as a woman felt like a foreign concept. It was more like my inner child throwing a tantrum, demanding attention. Instead of mothering myself, asking what I needed and giving it to myself, I mothered everyone around me: my partner, my friends. And the person I consistently neglected was myself. 

Living in the Masculine: The Doer, Not the Be-er

I thrived in a masculine energy, addicted to the "DOing" of life. Achievement and success were my currency, my measure of worth. Looking back at pictures of that time, I feel a wave of compassion for her – that version of me. Of course she didn't know how to "be." Vulnerability wasn't modeled for her, and true self-discovery meant getting radically honest about what wasn't working. It meant showing up for myself, facing the discomfort, instead of running from it all.

Meeting My Inner Child: She had Spark of Rebellion

Meeting my inner child changed the game for me. During a transformative healing session, I reconnected with a neglected part of myself – my inner child. This little girl, brimming with potential and love, had been silenced by my relentless quest for external validation. She needed me to heal, to prioritize self-love, and finally, to save her. When I asked her to come be one with me, she refused to come. Looking back on it now, It would be like if you pushed a small child off a play structure then said, hey, let's go get ice cream! Not a chance!

The Birth of an Anchor: Worthy Wands

My inner child's message was clear: "Find your own true north. Anchor yourself."Save yourself, then come back and get me!"

For the longest time, I thought I was just an overgiver, a people pleaser and I wore those titles like a badge of honour, until my coach bluntly said: You don't have an over-giving problem, you have an unworthiness problem! Which is quite the paradox given that Amanda means ("worthy of love") and due to past trauma, I felt anything but worthy.

That's when the concept of Worthy Wands was born. I craved a tangible reminder of my inherent worth, something I could see, touch, and use as a daily anchor for positivity.

Science Validates the Magic

The results were profound. Wearing my Worthy Wand day in and night out, I felt a shift. My posture improved, confidence blossomed, and for the first time, I began to truly love the woman staring back at me in the mirror. I didn't greet her with anger anymore. Little did I know, science backed this transformation.

My healing journey was a lonely one, a side effect that really isn't shared too much, and it led me to dive soul first into personal development, I got my NLP certification, started studying the fascinating worlds of neuroscience and epigenetics. It all made perfect sense. Our brains learn through repetition, this is how we form new neural pathways. The negative self-talk I'd been feeding myself was literally impacting my well-being. In my studies I learned how our thoughts, attitudes, and perceptions can play a significant role in determining which genes are turned on or off. This is because our thoughts and emotions produce chemical signals that can affect the activity of our genes. For example, chronic stress has been shown to trigger epigenetic changes that can lead to the development of a range of health problems.

Furthermore, it has been suggested that our thoughts and emotions can directly affect the vibrational frequency of our cells. This is because every thought and emotion produces a measurable energy field. When we have negative thoughts or emotions, our cells vibrate at a lower frequency, which can have a negative impact on our health.

Dis-ease creates disease. Right then and there I decided it was time to silence the inner critic, and I believe it's time for you to do the same.

Building a Worthy World: 

This is where you come in. My story is not unique. Millions struggle with self-worth and the need for external validation.

That's why I'm on a mission to create a shared language for self-love, a world where we all feel like Worthy Warriors, empowered to silence the inner critic and anchor our self-worth.

Are you ready to rewrite the template? Do you want to be a part of our Worthy Wands family?

• The Inner Critic Whisperer: The truth is we all have that voice, but we can learn to quiet it. We have tons of resources here on Worthy Wands for FREE ( blog posts where we talk about how you can successful turn the volume down.) We also have meditations, journals, courses available on our site to support you on a deeper level. I've been where you might be and when I made a deal with God, I said - if you bring me through this - I vow to help create resources, tools to help others through too.
• Anchor Your Worth: Worthy Wands are more than jewelry; they're functional tools, they're tangible reminders of our inherent value. There is science behind affirmations. There is science why what we've created here at Worthy Wands works. You don't need a Worthy Wand to embark on the journey you can use whatever you have today - even a sticky note stuck to your mirror or alarms programmed into your phone as hourly reminders. YOU ARE WORTHY - YOU ARE ENOUGH - YOU ARE A WARRIOR - A SURVIVOR - A GODDESS - A BADASS - LOVED. You are.

Let's embark on this journey together. Stay tuned for upcoming posts, a podcast is in the works too, and many more resources designed to help you reclaim your self-worth and build a life filled with love, confidence, and empowerment.

You were never meant to outsource your worth. It's time to reconnect with your inner Worthy Warrior and live a life anchored in self-love.

Sending you all my love wherever this post meets you,

Amanda - Chief Worthiness Officer - Worthy Wands