Welcome to the world of self-worth, where you get to decide your own value.
If you are reading this, it means that you have already taken the first step towards improving your self-worth, and that is commendable.
Self-worth is the foundation upon which we build our lives. It is a critical factor in determining our happiness, success, and overall well-being.
So, how can you raise your self-worth?
The answer is simple: stop giving your time and attention to things that lower it. This may seem like a simple concept, but it can be difficult to put into practice. We often find ourselves getting caught up in negative self-talk, comparing ourselves to others, and focusing on our flaws and weaknesses, we're not going to do that anymore.
Instead, we need to focus on our strengths and accomplishments. We need to celebrate our successes, no matter how small they may seem. By acknowledging and appreciating our achievements, we build our confidence and boost our self-worth.
It's also important to understand what self-worth is and why it's important. Self-worth is the value we place on ourselves as individuals. It's based on our sense of competence, our ability to achieve our goals, and the way we perceive ourselves in relation to others. When we have a healthy level of self-worth, we feel confident, capable, and deserving of love and respect. On the other hand, when our self-worth is low, we may feel insecure, unworthy, and undeserving of happiness.
One of the biggest contributors to low self-worth is negative self-talk. The way we talk to ourselves can have a profound impact on our self-esteem and confidence. Negative self-talk can take many forms, from criticizing our appearance and abilities to doubting our worth as individuals. To raise our self-worth, we need to start paying attention to our self-talk and replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.
For example, instead of telling yourself, "I'm not good enough," try reframing the thought to, "I am capable and deserving of success." Instead of focusing on your flaws and shortcomings, focus on your strengths and accomplishments. This may take some practice, but over time, you can train your brain to think more positively about yourself. Your brain really wants you to win, but it will default to the way you think most, to conserve energy. Your brain needs to get the memo that the soundtrack is changing! It loves repetition so keep at it, and you'll start to create new neural pathways. What fires together, eventually wires together.
Another thing that can lower our self-worth is comparing ourselves to others. In today's world of social media and constant online connectivity, it's easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others. We see pictures of people with seemingly perfect lives and feel inadequate in comparison. However, it's important to remember that what we see online is often just a highlight reel. Everyone has struggles and challenges, even if they don't share them on social media.
To stop comparing yourself to others, try focusing on your own journey and accomplishments. Set goals for yourself that are realistic and achievable, and celebrate your progress along the way. Remember that everyone has their own unique path in life, and yours is just as valuable and important as anyone else's.
The company we keep can also impact and lower our self-worth. If we're surrounding ourselves with negative people or situations, or if we are constantly around people who bring us down or engage in toxic behavior, like gossiping, it can be challenging to maintain a positive outlook on ourselves and our lives.
That's why surrounding ourselves with positive and supportive people who uplift us, have the same values as we do, and who encourage us to be our best selves is important. Also seeking out activities and experiences that make us feel good and contribute to our personal growth helps us in building our self confidence.
Finally, prioritize self-care if you want to raise your self-worth. I'm not talking spa days and manicures, it can be as simple as saying no to a commitment that doesn't align, or reading quietly, or buying yourself some flowers, or having a bath in the middle of the day. When we neglect our physical and mental health, we're sending ourselves the message that we're not worth taking care of, and that just isn't true. You are worth it, even if no one has told you lately, your brain just got the memo.
All my love,
Amanda - Chief Worthiness Officer