You Control Your Emotions, Your Emotions Don't Control You.

How To Increase Self Confidence


You Control Your Emotions, Your Emotions Don't Control You.

The good new is that, you and you alone get to choose what meaning to assign when things happen. This is the one power that you always have that can and will change everything.

The only thing keeping you from getting what you want is yourself. The only thing keeping you from the joy you deserve is the disempowering story you keep telling yourself. So what if you decided right now to offer yourself a new core belief? What if everything in your life, including the most painful and traumatic events, was happening for you, not to you

What if everything was designed for you to actually have a greater life and have more to give and more to enjoy?

If you want real freedom in your life, you must make a decision to stop allowing external events to shape your happiness. And that is only done by becoming the master of meaning and finding the empowering meaning in anything and everything that comes your way. 

The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you

See how that works? We unconsciously decide what events and experiences in our life mean; we do it all the time, but may not be aware of it. While we cannot control the events that happen in our lives, we can master how we experience these events. Stressful times are inevitable, but mastering the meaning will change the game. 

Things will always happen that are outside our control, and yes, sometimes it knocks us down. But stress, anger and sadness – these feelings don’t come from the facts, they come from the meaning that we give the facts. 

Of course, the terrible things that happen are real. But the question is, how are you going to allow that to shape your life? Are you going to let it break you down, or are you going to use it to empower and enlighten the way you go through life? The choice is always yours. What are you going to focus on? What story are you going to let guide your life? We’ve all experienced those times in our lives when we’ve said, “I’ve had it— never again— this must change now”. 

That’s what happened to me. That’s when I said - enough is enough! There has to be a better way forward.  This is the magical moment when pain becomes our friend

Know that it’s your decisions, and not your conditions, that determine your destiny. Ten years from today you will surely arrive, the question is, where? Isn’t it time we decide where you want to end up? Isn’t it time to lighten the load?  

What if you believed you were worthy and enough? How would you show up

Grab a journal and answer these questions. 

  • Would the things that you are letting get in the way of your ultimate happiness and success even matter?
  •  How would you spend your days? 
  • What would you be doing? 
  • What does the most successful empowered version of you look like? 
  • Remember at the beginning I asked you about the 2.0 version of you? 

See, the soul creates, and the mind reacts. A life lived by choice is a life of conscious action. A life lived by chance is a life of unconscious reaction. 

Reaction is just that - an action that you've taken before. When you re-act, you are repeating the same experience. That's why pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. Ahhhhh - is this all starting to make sense?

See, choosing is freedom. Choosing a more empowered meaning

I choose to. 

I get to. 

I decide to.

Indecision and reacting is putting yourself into a state of limbo and repeating history and that's like a prison for your soul. 

Your soul will have you search for a memory to see how you can create a magical experience in present. ( I believe, this moment has been pre-sent to you as a gift ) This is why they call it "soul-searching" because you need to get out of your mind to do it. So think of it this way: 

Get out of your mind and back to your senses! Return to how you feel, not what you think! Remember energetics. What’s your energy like when you are in your head making up stories that don’t serve you and hurt you? 

Your thoughts are just mental constructions "made up" creations of your mind. It believes what you tell it. 

Feelings, when you drop in, are your truth. How do you FEEL? It's what’s speaking to you if you really listen, you can hear it in your body. Your “gut” or “intuition” is calling you towards what you REALLY want. 

Your soul understands what the mind cannot conceive. If you keep spending all your time trying to figure out what is "best" for you, your choices will be cautious, your decisions will take forever and your journey will be launched into a sea of expectations If you're not careful, you will drown in your expectations. 

Look at these 2 words 



Notice they are the same word. Only the "C" has been moved! When you "C" things correctly, you become Creative rather than Reactive. You were born to create not re-act, or destroy. Next time you feel overwhelmed with emotions, master the meaning. 

Take control of them and ask yourself:  

If I believed I was Worthy and Enough: 

  • Would this even matter, 
  • How would I show up, 
  • Is my re-action going to impact the outcome?

Sending you all my love,

Amanda xo

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